2 Corinthians 6:14. This happened to me yesterday and I quote, “god says don’t be unequally yoked and we are….I really like you but god comes first.” This would not usually be a problem, someone rejecting me, but the reason pissed me off. WHO in the FUCK that KNOWS I am an atheist and tells me they are looking to be in a relationship comes to tell me THIS a month into us talking. AND I know for DAMN sure he knew I was atheist because we talked about it. He asked me why and to tell him about my views. I did. I asked him about his and his view. He told me. There…..so…why tf? And remember this conversation happened like 3 days into him telling me he was looking for a relationship. SO a month later this comes up. BITCH I did NOT just put all my DAMN focus on YOU for this GOD bullshit. Smh. Now that I think about it I really only know one other atheist and he is a youngin. I have been discriminated against lol. I am a minority I know and I don’t expect people to accept me right off but come on now. WHO tf does this. And he was like can we still be friends and do homework together? HA! Shove this bible up your ass then come ask me again.  

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God. It’s that one topic that I cannot get away from. I have been told that saying that goes something like “when things are bad pray and when things are good pray.” I know that is not the exact words but you get the idea. I have been told that when things are hard and you need help in life to pray to god and he will help make things better. I, of course, disagree with this. Talking to yourself in your head will not make your life better or pay that bill or buy that new car or impress that girl/guy or save your little sisters life from a sure death. It’s you that makes things happen. YOU! Not having a one sided conversation inside your head. You want that bill to be paid so you go to work to make the money to pay that bill or you sell something things to make that money to pay that bill or you take on another job to make the money to pay that bill. You want that new car so you save your money to buy that car. You don’t have that one sided conversation in your head and wake up the next day with the new car in the drive way. You want to get to know that hot girl/guy? You dress nice and keep cleaned up and talk to her/him and do something to seem better than everyone else. YOU do that. YOU! Little sister is in the hospital and you go see her everyday and sometimes stay the night with her holding her hand as she sleeps doing what you can to help. You make her happier. You make her more comfortable. You keep her fighting by showing how much you love her. YOU! You do that. Talking to god will not do it. You are the one who deserves the credit and not an imaginary man in the sky. Do not thank god when you find enough money to pay that bill. God didn’t work for that money, you did. God didn’t pay for that new car you are driving around, you saved that money to buy that car. You did. That hot girl/guy didn’t get a message from heaven saying to hang out with you, you made that happen with your wit and charm. You did that. Don’t thank god when your sister finally recovers from her illness. He was not the doctor who stayed up day and night pumping her full of medicines to keep her alive. They did that. He didn’t sleep in a chair next to the hospital bed every night to make sure she was not afraid. To make sure she saw your face and how hard you fought for her even thought you had a life you had to put on pause every day just for her. She held your hand and loved to see your face every day. Not god. You did that. YOU! Thank god? No Fuck that. If anything fuck god. If he is real he is not doing anything to help anyone. Everything you have in your life you have worked for and made for yourself. YOU HAVE DONE IT! Not god. YOU! You did all of it. DO NOT ever tell me to thank god for what I have and how good I have it because he didn’t do shit for me. I did all of that. I did it. You did it. Not imaginary man. YOU! Give yourself the credit. e

It has been a long time since I have been truly happy with everything in my life. Well almost everything in my life. 

College is almost out for the summer and I am satisfied with my grades and ready for these last few finals. Ill be coming back in the fall to finish my gen eds and starting on my minor classes. Even though I will still be living in a dorm my roommate of 2 years will have an apartment I can crash at anytime I need. I am so excited for this summer break. My roommate and I are so ready to work so we can shop this summer for when I turn 21 during the fall semester. She is so ready to take me out to the bars and clubs. I love her. She says I need club clothes.  

I still have my job back at home so I will be able to work as soon as I get back. Money will begin its flow soon and it is much needed. They have even moved me to front end instead of deli and I am so happy for that. No more meat and cheese. 

My family misses me and I miss them. My mom is coming to help me move out on Thursday and I can not wait to see her. I miss my brother and sister. I need to beat on them some and I will feel better (just a joke btw). I am starting to talk to my dad a little bit again but I am not sure how it will end up. Its better than it has been which is good but I am not sure I want him back yet. He is back from Mississippi for good this time so I guess I will have to deal with it. 

I have been talking to this guy for about 2 months now and he is great. We talked for a little while and then he took me out on a real date. Like picked me up in his car. Payed for the movie and dinner (let me pick where we ate). Dropped me off at the door and kissed me goodnight. This may seem like a normal thing to most people but I don’t EVER get this treatment. EVER. Guys may like me and want to hang out but most of them just want to have sex. I am done with those childish guys. This one is different.

We actually talk about things like his life and mine. He likes to have conversion. Things like what we want for our futures and hopes. He calls me after work to see how my day has gone and texts me good morning and goodnight. When he came to see me over the weekend he would randomly look at me and tell me how pretty I am. He is mature, has a job, lives in a nice apartment with a roommate, pays bills, still finds time to have fun and likes me. He is the kind of guy that keeps up with the newest Jordans and wears Polo. He stays fresh and still likes me for my simple jeans, t shirt and chucks swagg. He drives a 2012 Camero SR and lets me drive it. He likes to please me and make me happy. HE MAKES ME HAPPY AND WANTS TO MAKE ME HAPPY (and were not even together). 

Ill stop ranting on him :)) But everything is just falling into place I feel like. I am actually happy with what is going on. My life is right! 

Recommend a book. :) (Doesn’t have to be relevant to atheism, just any good book.)

I know you can pick any book to recommend and it does not have to be about religion or anything but mine is. 

I would tell everyone to read “Jesus Interrupted.” This book opens your eyes to contradictory views about who Jesus was and the significance of his life. It is written from an educated point of view from scholars for two centuries of knowledge.

You will not be disappointed with this book. :))   

On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you with life at this moment, and why?

I am between 8 and 9. Not everything is going how I would like it to but everything is still pretty good.

I am almost done with my sophomore year of college. All I have left is finals week and then I am done till next fall and I need this break. I have managed to add a minor to my major and I love it. I am doing really well in my classes. My minor comes naturally to me and I can’t wait until next semester when I can learn more.

I am talking to a guy right now that really makes me happy. We have been calling and  texting each other for about a month now and he has taken me out on our first date last weekend. I have been single for 2 almost 3 years now and I miss this feeling. It feels good to wake up knowing that someone in this world finds me attractive and wants to spend time with me. He is a mature man with a job who is looking forward to life. I really like him but I can’t put all my eggs in one basket just yet.

My family misses me and I am starting to talk to my dad again. Its slow but its progress. He texted me last night telling me he wanted a hug and I told him ill be home in a week. That was about all the conversation consisted of but before I would never text him back for anything. My brother called me last night just to see what I was doing because he misses me. My mom told me I was beautiful and that was something that really doesn’t happen very much. I love them. My little sister is still grounded but I know she misses me too.

My roommate is doing big things and I am so proud of her. She is going to be in a all black sorority and it is something she is very excited about. I don’t like the frat and sorority thing but she does and she made me promise to come to her probate. She is getting an apartment and a job, doing summer school and may have to take care of her dogs all over the summer while her mom goes off to Afghanistan for work. She is such a strong and beautiful individual and I love her for it. She keeps her head up most of the time all while dealing with me and I don’t know what I would do without her. She is my sister and best friend.

I still have my job back home so I can make some money over the summer. My manager called me the other day telling me I don’t have to work in the deli and more and she is moving me to the front. ««This. I am so happy that I don’t have to deal with meat and cheese everyday anymore. Money will be coming in soon and I need it.

So you could say life is good right now and I really hope it stays that way.    

Would you ever date/marry somebody who follows a religion? Be honest.

Yes I would and I have. I don’t discriminate against anyone because they are religious as long as they don’t try to change me. Being an atheist is my business and just because I don’t like it does not mean I should hate everyone that likes it. I am currently talking to a guy that has “son of god” tattooed across his chest and I don’t see a problem with us dating. Thats like asking would you ever date out of your race and we all know that it is becoming more and more common every year.   

When it comes to marriage though there may be some problems but I am not going to let religion get in the way of who I end up falling in love with. There are not many atheist people where I live (Kentucky) so if I were to just look to date atheist I would not get very much choice. 

When I look for someone to date, or even if I am not looking, I don’t ask them first off what there religion is or even if they believe in religion. All of that comes later. Everyone that I have dated/talked to in the past 2 years since I have announced my atheism has never had a problem with it so why should I have a problem with their religion? 

I am not that pick. I am open to everyone. 

What happens when we die? Do you fear death?

I am not afraid to die. Of course I don’t want to yet because I am only a Jr in college and haven’t really started my life yet but I am not afraid of death. It will happen to everyone eventually so why be afraid?

When you die you just die. Its as simple as that. Your heart stops, your organs stop, then your brain keeps working for about 7 mins then shuts off. That is the only thing I am afraid of when I die is the feeling of nothing but your mind working. You don’t feel a heart beat, no blood flow, but you can still feel pain because your brain is still working with your nerves. I do NOT want to be in pain and can’t do anything about it.

I have had dreams about this before. I was shot and died but my brain was still thinking and I was freaking out. I could not move anything. No blinking, no twitch, no NOTHING! The guy in my dream started cutting up my body and the pain was unbearable but I was dead so I couldn’t do anything about it. I just laid there screaming inside my head then everything went black and I woke up….

Sry about that tangent :))     

Do you have/plan on having a career in the sciences? Alternatively: which branch of science intrigues you most?

I like like science to an extent. I don’t really like to study science but when there is something I really want to know about then I will take my time to find out through science. 

I kinda have a career plan in science because my major is Sociology and that is the study of human behavior. I like to try and understand why people do or don’t do things in life. 

I think the most interesting branch of science to me would have to be along the same lines as my major so anything that has to do with human behavior and the mind. 

Are you spiritual, or are your feet always on the ground? 

I am not spiritual at all. I keep my feet on the ground. I don’t really think I want to be spiritual either. I feel like if I am spiritual what would it be with? Nature? I like nature and I love to be in the outdoors but I don’t see me being connected to it in any way.

Even though you’re an atheist, have you ever experienced a moment that could be called “religious?” Like an epiphany about the world or complete peace?

I feel like I might have a long time ago when I did believe in God and all that stuff. I cannot recall any specific time were I felt really religious. 

I can only remember all the times I felt stupid for talking to myself in my head and someone was suppose to hear me. Or when thanking an invisible person for things that my family did or I did. Or wake up early every Sunday spend an hour worshiping nothing and giving away money so we could do it every Sunday. 

So I don’t really think I have ever felt religious. If I ever have it was a long time ago and I don’t remember it. 

What’s your political alignment? Does your atheism influence how you vote and how you feel on issues?

I don’t pay attention to politics like I should so my atheism does not influence how I feel about issues. 

I don’t like politics so I don’t have a political alignment. 

I don’t think I decided on things based on my atheism. It is not the deciding factor in life. 

Except for God, do you believe in anything supernatural or pseudoscientific? (Ghosts, alien abductions, spirits, souls, demons, psychics, magic, Harry Potter, etc.)

I really don’t believe in any of that stuff. For awhile I did believe in ghosts because when I would sleep in my room at home I would always feel like I was being watched. I felt like I wasn’t alone but it wasn’t in a creepy way. I thought it was just my great great grandmother walking around up in my room. The house I live in was hand built by my great grandparents and the upstairs now use to be the attic.

My great great grandmother was murdered on the doorstep of my house by a white guy way before I was born. He hit her over the head with a cinder block. I use to feel like she was watching me when I slept. Now I don’t feel it anymore and I think its because when I was younger I had a crazy imagination and was exaggerating. 

SO I use to think ghosts were real and that was it but now I don’t. 

How do you feel about so-called “militant atheists” such as Richard Dawkins, Christopher Hitchens, and Sam Harris?

When I read this question I had no idea what it was talking about at first. I had too look this stuff up because I had never heard about a “militant atheist” before and from what I see it means to be hostel toward religion. Going along with that definition I will answer…

I don’t like hostel anything. That is like the same thing as asking if I like extreme religious people. I honestly don’t have a problem with anything like that unless the group/person that is an extremist (either religious or not) takes their beliefs to the next level such as killing or hurting those who do not agree and then I have a problem.

Other than that I really can’t say much about this because I don’t know much about it. I will def do my research and find out more about this stuff. I don’t want to get to into a question I don’t understand.         

Did you lose any friends because you decided to be an atheist? Did your family flip out?

I did not loose any of my friends and most of them actually support my decision. None of them has ever looked at me funny or stopped talking to me because of it and I am sure they do all know about it. It says I am a proud atheist on my facebook, twitter, tumblr, instagram and everything else I use. My friends love me! 

My family is a little bit of a different story. My parents don’t really understand it but there is nothing they can really do about it so they just accept it. My aunts and uncles don’t really have anything to say about it or they just don’t care which I hope they just don’t care. I don’t want them talking about it behind my back. A few of my younger cousins don’t agree with it and they told me its because I am “going through a phase and I am rebelling against my parents.” This one really made me laugh because what 20 year old in college still rebels against their family? I thought that was a middle school early high school thing. I know they don’t understand it but I still love them with my everything.

Now my grandparents on the other hand are a whole different story. My dads parents don’t really know I think because they don’t do the online social networking thing which is fine. The conversation has never really come up with them and I am really not worried about telling them. I have a feeling my dads dad will not really care and understand but my dads mom might look at me a little different which is fine. I don’t mind it at all as long as she does not try to change my mind. Now my moms parents…. They do not like this at all. I once posted a note on facebook answering some FAQ’s about my atheism so if anyone wanted to know they could just refer to that page. My grandmother saw it and commented on how its such a shame and “god it love.” She even posted a bible verse. I just laughed and knew that was going to happen but then she kept it up. Every time she commented on anything on my page she would say “isn’t god good” or a bible verse. As you can see she is extremely religious. Prayer everyday before meals, church every Sunday and Wednesday, helps with bible school, helps with any church event, etc.    

I don’t know about you but its kinda getting old to me. I know that she is older and grew up in a completely different time than I did so that is why I don’t say anything back but thank you and I miss you. That woman does not give up and I am sure she will keep it up till death. That sweet lady. I love her so much. I hope she doesn’t try to take me to church next time I visit. That will get ugly.    

Do you think religion is obsolete and should be wiped completely off the face of the Earth, or does some good come out of it?

I really don’t care if religion stays or goes. There are some good that comes out of it and there are some bad.

I have been sitting here for 10 mins trying to explain myself but I just can’t seem to put it into words…

Religion creates morals for people to follow to make their lives better but in the same sense anyone can create good morals or life guild lines to live by. You don’t have to have someone tell you what is right and what is wrong. Most of it is common sense. Religion gives people something to believe in yet anyone can believe in anything like invisible supernatural beings but if that supernatural being happens to be a unicorn or something then that person is looked down upon and told that there is not such thing. Do they have proof ? No but neither do religious people. Religion brings communities and people together but so do birthdays, funerals, reunions, natural disasters etc. They may not all be good gatherings but people will come together for one cause. They always have. Religion tells you what to do and how to live your life but so does the government and society. Even though we don’t like the government and society we do what they say anyway.

I could keep on and keep on but my point is that with or without religion the same kinds of things will happen. They may not happen in the exact same ways but in general they will. If religion happens to one day be removed for the earth one day then it wouldn’t bother me. If it stays forever that is fine too. Everyone will think what they want to think no matter what and either way the same things will happen with or without religion.